Only when it is dark enough, you can see the stars.

 I didn't invent this phrase but it has stuck with me. There is already a great support group running that has this name. I have spent a lot of time thinking and talking about grief in my lifetime. I am a therapist and grief is one of the top 5 reasons people come to therapy. Grief can mean so many things, but in essence it's loss. Loss of someone physically. Sometimes they moved, sometimes they changed jobs, sometimes they stopped talking to you or broke up with you or you stopped talking to them, sometimes they changed in a way that makes them not them anymore. There is ambiguous grief, a coin termed by Boss, which is a painful experience of grieving a loss that lacks closure. Usually because the person is still physically preset but psychologically absent or emotionally unavailable. This term has become more common in recent days. Sometimes in couples and families as people are physically present but emotionally absorbed into other things (their phones for example or substan...